Friday, February 17, 2012

It is Disorder that Attracts Attention because it is Awkward and Intrusive.

Order is Never Observed. It is Disorder that Attracts Attention because it is Awkward and Intrusive.
An incredibly true statement! A fancy way of reminding us that we all want to stand out, but also want to fit in. One of life's conundrum is that as much as we want to stand out, we also crave to fit in with society. I totally stole this from lifehacker! Lifehacker has a short post on it so I'm just expanding on what I think it means.

Life comprises of many spectrums. Wanting to "stand out" lies on the far opposite end of "fitting in".
So there's gotta be some sort of balance. Yeah, sure, there are those that definitely stand out ...perhaps in a more positive, and then there are some that always fit in or stand out in non-pleasant manner. So something tells me there is balance, a sweet spot where standing out just in the right areas such as the right situations, for the right reasons, personality, and the behavior should naturally reflect, thus portraying a more desirable image.

The Trouble With "Fitting In"
Fitting in is overrated. Trying to fit in inhibits and limits our ability to think creatively, to act reasonably, and most importantly it hinders our ability to live with purpose. People that stand out have embraced what makes them unique and crafted those areas of their personality to into a more desirable image. I have met those that I find are very skilled at drawing certain qualities of themselves at will and they do it such an appealing way by concealing their true personalities, emotions while eliciting it from others.

The Trouble With "Standing Out"
I have also met those who also stand out very much, but how they stand out is a part their natural personality, they haven't crafted themselves effectively. They already have the natural personality of standing out, but because there is a lack of structure the standing out becomes somewhat of a deficiency. Uniqueness without structure and without the following: keen sense of awareness, sharp sense of judgement, tact, word choice, decisions, purpose ...would actually hurt us. An example would be when it attracts unwanted attention.

Personality, Speech, Conduct, ...Sense of Humor
The former can usually morph into almost any personality, reflecting a range of behaviors, adapt to almost any situation, with anyone with ease while radiating a pleasant personality. It is a personality that stands out just enough -  What I describe should not be confused with superficiality - which is shallow, undeveloped, more or less without purpose. I am not trying to endorse superficiality nor am I encouraging you to be someone you're not, but rather take a different perspective, it is refreshing.

I don't enjoy a lot of activities that most other people enjoy such as watching football, watching sports in general, or idle talk.

In high school every time friends got together it seemed that there was a need to do something, which the reason could be that with a larger group of people, for everyone to be included required an activity as oppose to just sitting, eating, and talking..

I am no expert in one area, but am an expert in knowing a little about a range of areas.

Hopefully, we will at least once in our lives create some sort of disorder because it reveals to us at the moment our natural being and our inner self that we've been subconsciously trying to control.

Sources
http://lifehacker.com/5881054/order-is-never-observed-it-is-disorder-that-attracts-attention-because-it-is-awkward-and-intrusive

http://goinswriter.com/jack-of-all-trades/

"Order Is Never Observed. It Is Disorder That Attracts Attention Because It is Awkward and Intrusive"
-The Social Nerd

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